Talking to your teen about sex
If you’re the parent of a teen, you might think you don’t need to talk about sex education because the school will take care of that. However, you shouldn’t rely on the information that your child gets in the classroom. It’s far better for a teen to receive sex education both in school and in the home. What if your teen misses a lesson, doesn’t hear some important information or doesn’t really understand everything he or she needs to? This is where you need to help. It might seem embarrassing and daunting but remember that you’re helping to set them up for a lifetime of healthy sexual relationships. Here are some tips:
Broaching the topic
Think of sex education as an ongoing conversation and not a ‘one-off’ awkward lecture. Sex is everywhere – in the news, in films and in advertising, so use one of these to open up the conversation. When you’re watching the TV or a film, use any opportunity as a springboard for further discussion. You don’t even need to sit down with sole person of talking about sex. Some of the best opportunities might arise whilst in the car or doing chores.
Honesty
Don’t be afraid to be completely honest. If you feel awkward, then admit to it but don’t stop the conversation. If you don’t know the answers to their questions, look it up together.
Be Direct
Be direct about your feelings about certain things but present the facts and risks objectively. Remember to include emotions, unplanned pregnancy, contraception and sexually transmitted infections. If they tell you that they’ve already been sexually active and might be at risk of infection, don’t judge but support them with a Home STI kits London from Bexley Sexual Health. They can take a test in the comfort of their own home and then you can discuss the results of any Home STI kits London.
Point of View
Listen to your teen’s point of view and try not to lecture or employ scare tactics. Try to be understanding of their concerns, ideas and pressures. They need facts but it’s also vital to discuss feelings, values and attitudes. You can look at issues of ethics in line with your own family’s religious or personal belief system.
Stay Open
Make it known that you’re always open for further discussion about the subject. Whenever they have worries or queries, they should feel they can come to you. Be positive and praise their approaches by stating that you are glad they came to you.
The Future
It’s all about being supportive and you can help your teen grow into a sexually informed and responsible adult. Remain honest and even if your teen doesn’t seem interested in what you say, say it anyway. You might not think it and they won’t want to show it, but they are most likely listening!